At least one woman out there says no. And let me tell you, I’d LOVE to sit down in a room with her.
I recently stumbled across this image while browsing the internet. Let me just say that for various reasons, it really pissed me off. And in my state of rage, I didn’t stop to see where it originated from. So, if you want to take credit for this image, please feel free to contact me, and I will gladly site you as the source. 🙂
This image is inaccurate in so many ways. So many that I don’t even know where to start.
I suppose that I should start by saying that I am neither “Team Working Mom” nor “Team SAHM”. I am “Team Whatever Works for You” because motherhood, no matter how to choose to do it, is hard.
I suppose we can break it down, line by line.
Away from home vs. home all day long:
I will admit, some days I want nothing other than to stay home all day in my pjs, but have you honestly ever stayed home all day, every day. Too much time spent at home leads to cabin fever, which leads to crazy people. Which I suppose would explain how someone could honestly put together this insane flowchart and keep a straight face while doing it!
As much as I don’t always want to go to work, I can’t even begin to tell you how many SAHMs have told me how lucky that I am that I “get to get out of the house and go to work”. Yes, I said LUCKY!
I guess it’s simply a case of ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’. But as a working mom, I can tell you that I am thankful for my job. The days that I don’t want to go to work usually have more to do with the fact that I wish I had a different job, not that I wish I didn’t have a job at all.
Children with Others vs. Children with her
Want to know who my kids are with while I’m work? Some days it’s their father. Some days it’s my mom and dad. Some days it’s my mother in law. I get that some people are not as fortunate as my husband and I, in the fact that we don’t have to send our kids to daycare, but social interaction is GOOD for kids.
**[gasp]** “Even at daycare?”, you ask.
Yes Karen, even at daycare!
comes home exhausted vs. rest while children rest
Maybe it’s just me, but this one really gets me. First of all, if you ask my husband, I’m guessing that he would tell you that I am tired EVERYDAY when he gets home. It doesn’t matter if I worked that day, or if I was home. Children are exhausting, maybe it’s just my kids though.
As far as SAHMs resting while their kids nap… guess what… I DO TOO! That’s right Becky, I designed my kids nap schedule around MY SCHEDULE. I know, I know… I’m not winning Mom of Year this year because rather than catering to my children’s every desire, I have dared to schedule their activities around what is convenient for me!
You got me here. I don’t make home cooked meals every night. But I honestly don’t think that I would make different choices if I stayed home all day. My kids are picky little assholes that only eat lunchables, hot dogs, grilled cheese, pizza, and chicken nuggets. Therefore, to save us all the emotional turmoil of my feelings being hurt when they turn their snobby little noses up at food I’ve worked to prepare, I have instead decided to accept the fact that my children eat from only the previously mentioned food groups.
And ya know what, they are all happy and healthy. And, on the plus side, my grocery bill is smaller, and dinner time is a happy, stress free time in our house. So suck it.
Why in the world do you care when and what I read to my kids. We have enough books in this house to start our own children’s library.
I’m not judging you for teaching your kids about Jesus, so don’t judge me for “reading to my kids before bed”.
I read to them often enough that they learned to read rather quickly and read above grade level. That’s a win in my book.
If you spend your weekends at the beach and at the park, when do you clean your house? That’s what the weekend is for! Want to know why? Because that’s when the kids are home. Put that free child labor to work and make them clean up after themselves. Plus, I won’t be raising entitled adults that wait for someone to clean up the messes they’ve made.
After they’ve cleaned up their own messes, then we can go play outside, or watch a movie, or play a board game.
When the cleaning is done, that is when it’s time for fun.
too tired for intimacy vs. puts out all day every day
I’m pretty sure this mom is implying that all of us working moms are not paying enough attention to our husbands. Which of course means they must all be stepping out on us.
I can assure you, I am intimate with my husband quite often. I’m going to guess that my sex life is leaps and bounds better than your. Mostly because your stance on how a household should run leads me to believe that you are probably pretty boring in the bedroom.
No offense though.
life falling apart vs. living a fulfilled life
I’m just going to end this here with saying that I feel like my life is plenty fulfilling. And I believe that there is no right or wrong way to raise one’s kids. There is no manual for child rearing, so each one of us has to decide what we think is right and what makes us feel fulfilled.
I hope that each one of you reading this is doing just that. And if you don’t feel happy and fulfilled, I hope that you feel empowered enough to do something about it.
I hope you can feel my rage in this, but also hear the sarcasm in my comparisons. Because I truly think that as moms we need to stick together and help empower each other.
I’ve said it before, and I’m sure I’ll say it again…
Raising tiny humans in hard.
But no one knows how to raise your tiny humans better than you.
So put that in your pipe and smoke it.
And what about single parents? If someone is supposed to be home with the children at all times, who is working to pay the bills in that house? Who’s buying the food they’re eating? Or are we just pretending that single parents don’t exist?